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  • April10th

    Sunday’s Coming…

    Author: Casey | Posted in: Spiritual

    Praise the Lord that Friday wasn’t the end!

  • April7th

    REFERRAL!!!

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Adoption, Home Life & Family

    We are overwhelmed, blessed, and absolutely overjoyed to announce that we have received our referral! Monday evening, I got a call from Holt telling us that they had a baby boy waiting for us. He is 2 1/2 months old and itty bitty, but absolutely precious! My arms are already aching for him!

    I got the call Monday evening at 5:30 that our agency would be e-mailing us his pictures and information to review. Sure enough, the e-mail popped right up on my account. Then I had to wait an excruciating fifteen minutes for Casey to get home so we could see the pictures of our son together.

    I think we were both in disbelief for several hours. We weren’t expecting a referral until May or June at the earliest. After our agency had told us many times to expect a 6-9 month wait for an infant, I can’t believe we got our referral in a little over four months! We are praising God for his wonderful faithfulness and perfect timing!

    We are still working on a name for our baby boy because we thought that we still had a few months to think about it. We will use part of his Ethiopian name as his middle name, but we want to give him a new first name. We’ll let you know as soon as we decide.

    So what’s next? Now we will wait for our court date, which will hopefully be assigned in the next few weeks. Usually the court dates are scheduled 2-3 months in advance, so we are hoping for a June court date. If we pass court the first time, we will be able to pick up our son three or four weeks after the court date. If not, we will have to wait for a second court date. So please pray for an early court date and that we will pass the first time.

    Unfortunately, we can’t post pictures of our little guy on the internet until he is legally our son. But here is a video of Caleb sharing the good news with Daddy.

    And here is a picture of Caleb seeing his baby brother for the first time. And Roger and Abby, if you’re reading this, I just happened to be wearing my 7,990 shirt that day.

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    Thank you so much, all of our dear family and friends, for your prayers and support over the last several months. Please continue to pray for our little guy; we know God is answering our prayers!

  • April3rd

    No TV?!?

    Author: Casey | Posted in: Parenthood

    386px-no-tvsvgMary Beth and I have always tried to carefully limit the amount of TV that Caleb watches, but still too often find ourselves using the TV to give us a break from parenting. I recently read a blog post about some parents who found themselves too far down that road and how they struggled to change their family habits.

    She made an interesting point about how TV can rob us from doing the things that God wants us to do with our time. We want our family to try and have a very balanced approach to our entertainment habits because we think God wants us to enjoy some time off every now and then, but He doesn’t want it to consume all of our time. What do you think?

    Read more about this family’s struggle with their TV watching habits.

  • April1st

    Four

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Adoption

    fourThis week marks the end of our fourth month of waiting for a referral. Here’s to hoping we are more than half way there. The good news is that in mid-February we were #18 on the waiting list, and I found out today that we are now #9!! There’s no way to tell how quickly the next referrals could come in, but we are hoping to have one maybe in June or July.

    Thank you for your continued prayers for our little guy. We can’t wait to see his face!

  • March9th

    2img_4005I have piles of laundry to fold and iron, book-keeping to do, and dishes to wash, but today I want to write about Caleb.

    I cannot imagine a cuter kid. He makes us laugh all the time. His favorite things right now include playing soccer with Daddy, listening to “George music” (aka Jack Johnson’s Curious George soundtrack), and playing with his many stuffed animals (especially the Chip and Dale that Daddy bought him in Orlando, the Larry that Aunt Laura and AnnaBelle gave him, and, of couse, the old favorite, Curious George). He is talking our ears off now! He talks constantly about anything and everything. The other day he was walking around the house saying, “I’m going to work on the computer to build a website.” His vocabulary seems to have doubled lately; there is little that he can’t explain or ask for.

    Over the last few weeks, he has started to pretend a lot more. He likes to pretend that he is Curious George, or Larry the Cucumber, or Christopher Robin, or Mickey Mouse. Of course, if he is George, or Larry, or Christoper Robin, or Mickey, then Casey and I have to fill the complementary rolls of “the man with the yellow hat,” or Bob the Tomato, or Winnie-the-Pooh, or Goofy. And, naturally, all of the actors have to be prepared to change character at a moment’s notice. One minute, I think that I am Minnie Mouse, and I am acting my heart out when I am suddenly informed that I am actually Junior Asparagus! I am certainly getting the chance to polish my nearly non-existent acting skills.

    Caleb also loves to read books, which, of course, is one of my greatest desires for my children. He will sit through as many books as we will read to him. For such an active and crazy almost-three-year-old, his attention span is really great when it comes to books. In the past we have mainly read picture books with plenty of bright colors to keep his focus, but just this past week I started reading to him The House at Pooh Corner by A. A. Milne. There aren’t as many pictures in this book, and sometimes there will be two or three pages with no pictures at all, but he is still content to sit in my lap and listen to the stories, which are much longer, with more character development, than most little children’s books.

    Some of my favorite childhood memories are of my daddy reading novels out loud to our whole family. Because I have two brothers, I was forced to sit through Kidnapped and Treasure Island, but he also read Silas Marner and others. There is something so beautiful about hearing the words of a story spoken out loud and imagining it in your mind instead of being fed someone else’s interpretation through their images.

    I hope that Caleb will continue to develop his attention span and wonderful imagination. Casey and I already have a long list of books that we are eager to read aloud to him when he is ready. He is such a wonderful blessing; we are cherishing every moment of being his parents.

    Just another little moment that I want to remember: Several nights ago I crept into his room while he was sleeping to pray for him. We had had a rough day, and, after he went to bed, I spent the evening flipping through parenting books, trying to figure out what I was doing wrong. While I was praying by his bed, I was having one of those anxious parenting moments, wondering if he is going to grow up to know what is right and to love God, or if I am completely ruining him with my own flaws. As I prayed over his life and his future, in his sleep, Caleb began to sing out loud, “God of wonders, beyond our galaxy, You are holy! Holy!” Wow! It brought tears to my eyes and gave me peace over all my anxious thoughts. I felt like God was reminding me that Caleb’s soul and future are in His hands, and not mine. What a relief! What a blessing to get to watch this little soul fall in love with God!

  • February24th

    From Ashes to Africa

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Adoption, Literature

    ashesYesterday I got my copy of From Ashes to Africa in the mail. I read it in three hours yesterday evening and then begged Casey to start reading it so we could talk about it.

    I wish that I could say that Josh and Amy Bottomly were my own very good friends. I’ve been following their blog for several months and we’ve exchanged a few e-mails about the Ethiopian orphanage sponsorship, but I have never met them. After reading their book, however, I feel like we could be good friends. We seem to have a lot in common, like Casey’s childhood infatuation with Michael Jordan and my time as a high school English teacher.

    From Ashes to Africa is the story of Josh and Amy’s journey to adoption in Ethiopia. It is an incredible story of transformation and hope. Josh and Amy speak openly and honestly about struggles in their marriage and faith and also about God’s redemption of their “ashes.” And the beautiful treat at the end is the account of their first moments with their son, Silas.

    Even though our journeys have been a bit different, I identified with so much of what Josh and Amy shared. I understood their path from a spark of interest in Ethiopia to a burning passion to reach out to the people there.

    I also appreciated their struggle to communicate their excitement about their adoption with others. We have also had some interesting reactions to our adoption news. Like Amy, I have had people “encourage” me by telling me that maybe one day I will be pregnant again. It baffles me every time. When I was pregnant with Caleb, no one felt the need to encourage me that I would have other children. Right now, my heart is pregnant with my little Ethiopian boy, and, until he is in my arms, I want no other. He is not a second choice, consolation prize; he is the desire of my heart.

    I am so thankful that Josh and Amy have shared their story, and I encourage everyone who is interested in adoption or Ethiopia, or just loves a good story to take the time to read it. At the very least, you should visit their blog so you can see pictures of their beautiful little Silas.

    Just a quick update on our own adoption journey: This week marks the end of our third month of waiting, and last week I found out that we are #18 on the waiting list. We’re still hoping for a referral this summer.

  • February11th

    Something to remember . . .

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Home Life & Family, Spiritual

    I shared this incident with some friends recently and realized that it was something I want to remember, so I’m sharing it on our blog.

    There are so many parts of being a mommy that you can never understand or be prepared for in advance. When I imagined being a mom, I knew that it would be hard. I knew there would be lots of dirty diapers, sick days, and messy meals, but there is a big difference between expecting those things and actually living them. Until you’ve experienced it, you don’t understand what it is like to live daily with someone else’s snot on your sleeve; you don’t understand what it means to come in contact with poop several times a day or to find yourself cleaning up a bed of vomit at 3AM. But this is normal life for a mommy, and, even though there are so many beautiful, priceless blessings that come with motherhood, the messy parts can be draining and exhausting. There are no standing ovations for mommies, no promotions, and few “thank you’s.”

    I love being a stay-at-home mom. There is nothing that would make me want to do anything else because I know that these years are fleeting. Caleb needs me so much right now, and someday he won’t. But, even though I feel so convicted about staying home with him, there are still times when I wake up and think, “I can’t believe this is my life! I can’t believe I went to school and studied so hard for all those years so that I could be a janitor.” Something about being a mom can make you feel so invisible, unappreciated, and unimportant. I know that these things aren’t true, but sometimes, without realizing it, I find myself living as if they were.

    A few weeks ago, Caleb woke up sick. He had thrown up all over himself in bed. You can imagine the mess. How does one even begin to clean up something like that? Casey was out for the evening, so I found myself facing this mighty mess all alone. Usually I have a pretty bad attitude about situations like this. I hate messes, especially when I’m tired, and toddlers are so uncooperative when it comes to cleaning. But, for some reason, I approached this mess with a deep, calm peace. I gave Caleb a bath, put him in clean pajamas, and changed the bed sheets. The only thing left was the blanket that he had thrown up in. I wasn’t sure how to clean it. It was too big to rinse in the toilet, but I didn’t want to throw it in the washer with all of the vomit still on it. So I spread it out on the floor and tried to scrub it with a washcloth.

    Caleb perched a few feet away from me and just watched. As he watched me struggling with the mess, he smiled at me and in his quietest, sweetest voice said, “Good job, Mommy.”

    I was so startled by what he said that I immediately started crying. It hit me like a bolt of lightning that Caleb was not the one speaking to me. I heard unmistakably the voice of my Father saying, “I see you; you are not invisible to Me. I see you, and I am pleased.” Wow! How’s that for a standing ovation!?! I would clean up a mess like that every night for a year to hear those words from my Father. It was a beautiful moment that I want to cherish always.

    “So she called the name of the LORD who spoke to her, ‘You are a God of seeing,’ for she said, ‘Truly here I have seen him who looks after me.’” ~ Genesis 16:13

  • January23rd

    Imagine the Potential

    Author: Casey | Posted in: Random Thoughts

    I love this video:

    What are your thoughts?

  • January15th

    Adoption Update

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Adoption

    Just an update for those of you who are tracking our adoption process:

    November 2 – Home Study

    November 23 – Picked up Home Study Report from Social Worker

    November 25 – Fedexed Dossier to Holt

    Early December – Officially on Ethiopia Waiting List

    December 5 – Fingerprinting with USCIS/Filed I-600A

    December 12 – Received I-171H (I-600A approval) (I think one week is probably record time for this; it is one of the only things that has actually gone more quickly than I expected.)

    Today, January 15, I received word that our Dossier has been authenticated and has been received in Ethiopia.

    We’ve now been on the waiting list for about a month and a half; we’ve requested a baby boy, under 12 months old. We are really hoping to have a referral sometime this summer. There are so many variables that it is impossible to guess when we will finally be able to travel to Ethiopia to get our baby boy. Right now I am praying that he will be in our arms by Christmas but trusting that God’s timing is perfect in every situation. Would you please be praying for us and our little boy? It is so hard to have this indefinite wait ahead of us that is completely out of our control.

    I’ve just been reading in Daniel 4 that “the Most High rules the kingdom of men and gives it to whom He will.” What a comfort to know that He is the One in control, both here and in Ethiopia!

  • December27th

    Caleb’s Christmas Story

    Author: Casey | Posted in: Home Life & Family, Tech

    Merry Christmas from the Pickers!

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