Picker Point
  • June15th

    Introducing . . .

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Home Life & Family

    smallJacob (90)Probably not who you were expecting, but almost as good. Our precious little nephew, Jacob Allan, was born early this morning to Allan and Lindsay. He was 6lbs. 10oz. He has blue eyes and lots of blonde hair.We are so proud of him and so thankful to welcome this little one into our family. We are excited for Caleb and Josiah to have the blessing of growing up only a couple miles from their cousin and pray that they will have close relationships for the rest of their lives.

    See more pictures . . .

  • June11th

    Caleb Kurtis

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Home Life & Family

    No news on our travel dates yet, but I feel a great peace about it, even though I have been so anxious throughout this process. Has God not proven Himself to me?? He has been so faithful to us; I have to trust that His timing is perfect. I know that we will be with Josiah at the exact moment that He has planned.

    In the meantime, I am trying to enjoy the first special treasure that He gave me: Caleb Kurtis. I know I’m his momma, but I have to say that this kid is special. If you haven’t met him, you are missing out! I’m trying to soak up these last moments, realizing that he will never be an only child again. Of course, he is always going to be our precious son, and we will always be absolutely in love with him, but things are about to change. I know that I will savor memories from these last three years for the rest of my life.

    Here are some pictures of my crazy kid:

    Isn't he adorable?

    Isn’t he adorable?

    Not really into the picture thing.

    Not really in to the picture thing.

    Cool guy.

    Cool guy.

    I refuse to cooperate.

    I refuse to cooperate.

    The squinty face he makes sometimes.

    The squinty face he makes sometimes.

    Just my crazy kid.

    Just my crazy kid.

  • June5th

    Today . . .

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Adoption, Home Life & Family

    flag2Yesterday, there were 5 million orphans in Ethiopia, but TODAY THERE IS ONE LESS!

    We passed court!

    And now Josiah has a mommy, and a daddy, and a big brother, and four grandparents, and six aunts and uncles, and three first-cousins, and seven great-grandparents, and 20 great-aunts and uncles, and more second- and third-cousins than I can count, and hundreds and hundreds of friends waiting to love him! Yesterday he was an orphan, but TODAY HE HAS A FAMILY!

    And yesterday we were a family of three, but today we are a family of FOUR! Yesterday we had one son, and today we have TWO!

    Praise God!! We are so thankful! We are overwhelmed by His goodness and mercy and faithfulness to us! Thank you for your prayers!

    We are still waiting for our travel dates, but we will be leaving in the next few weeks to bring our son home!

    “I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you” John 14:18

  • June4th

    Please Pray Tonight

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Adoption

    Our court case in Ethiopia will be heard tonight while we sleep. We’re anxious to know the outcome, but we know that God is in control and that He is, and has been, and always will be, faithful to us. So now we wait, and pray. We’re praying all day, and some friends are coming over to pray with us tonight.

    Right now I’m reminding myself of Daniel and Esther and all the others who found favor in foreign courts because of God’s faithfulness. And I’m clinging to Proverbs 21:1, which says, “The king’s heart is a stream of water in the hand of the LORD; he turns it wherever he will.” And I’m thinking of my sweet sister, Mihaela, whose adoption case was denied and closed before it was miraculously reopened and approved. And I’m comforted to know that “the Most High rules the kingdom of men and gives it to whom he will” (Daniel 4:17).

    We’ve been so blessed by those of you who have joined us in prayer throughout this process. I got a note from a sweet friend last week that said, “I’m praying that the God of electricity, paperwork, sick judges, amazing garage sales, and ALL other things will be present to REpresent you and that there will be no hindrances to getting this little boy in your arms VERY soon!”

    Please join us in echoing this prayer tonight. We may not hear our outcome until next week, but we will let you know as soon as we hear.

  • May29th

    Court Date!!!

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Adoption

    gavelWe just got incredible news that our court date in Ethiopia will be JUNE 5!! That’s a week from today. Since Ethiopia is eight hours ahead of us, they will probably be hearing the case while we sleep, very early on Friday morning.

    Would you please be praying for us, our little boy, those who will represent us in court, and the judge who will be hearing our case? If we pass next Friday we could be traveling to Ethiopia in the next several weeks! There’s a chance that we won’t pass the first time, and our court date will have to be rescheduled, which could delay the process for several weeks. There are many reasons that we could not pass: a sick judge, the paperwork isn’t in the right order, the electricity goes out, etc. Please be praying that we will find favor with those who are handling our case and that we will pass.

    Thank you so much for your prayers for our family and for little Josiah!

  • May25th

    behavior_chartMary Beth and I have been struggling to come up with incentives to help Caleb obey. It seemed like whatever punishment or reward we would try, he just wasn’t interested in being obedient.

    After thinking on the matter for a while, we decided to come up with a “Behavior Chart.” For every day he is obedient, he can get up to two stickers on his chart: one for the morning and one for the afternoon. We let Caleb come up with what kind of reward he would get when he reached three stickers. Being my son, he decided on a reward involving food, specifically donuts. :)

    Well, last night Caleb reached the ultimate goal: three stickers! Caleb requested to ride in daddy’s fast “race car” on the way to the donut shop. So, this morning we set out on a mission in my “fast race car” to find donuts. After unsuccessfully reaching two closed donut shops, we finally found one that was open and enjoyed our breakfast together.

    I’m very proud of my boy for learning to be more patient and slow to anger. I pray that God will continue to work in his heart to someday become the man that God wants him to be. I’m so thankful to be his dad.

  • May21st

    A Mother for Choco

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Adoption, Spiritual

    chocoTonight, Casey and I attended a prayer meeting at our church. We gathered with several other families who have hearts for foster care and adoption to pray for children who need families. This was such a powerful time of prayer for us. Casey and I ended up in a group with a couple who has adopted a son from Nicaragua. We were so blessed to have them pray with us and for us. We have been surrounded by so many encouraging, supportive friends throughout this process, but there is nothing like being lifted up in prayer by people who have stood where we are standing. As we prayed, my friend Krissi reminded me in prayer that from the moment of his conception, Josiah has been intended for our family. What a great reminder that we were created to be his parents and he was created to be our son!

    Throughout the evening I heard Josiah’s name whispered in prayer several times across the room. What an incredible blessing to have friends that are praying for our son and eagerly waiting to celebrate his arrival with us! It was such an encouraging evening, especially considering where I’ve been emotionally this week as we continue to wait.

    As we prayed I felt God burdening our hearts with the 140 million children in the world who need a family to call their own. There are nearly 5 million orphans in Ethiopia, and over 3,000 children in foster care just in our state. The numbers are daunting, and overwhelming, but I feel God calling His Church to meet this need, and I can’t wait to see what happens next!

    Coincidentally, when Caleb and I went to the library this morning, we checked out the book A Mother for Choco, a story about a baby bird who needs a mommy and the mother bear who becomes his mother. I read the story to Caleb before he went to bed. Later, after he was in bed, I heard him crying in his bedroom. It seemed like a sad, hurt cry, and I was afraid that he had hurt himself so I went in to check on him. When I asked him what was wrong, he said, “Choco needs a mommy.”

    It breaks my heart to watch my little son come to understand just one piece of the terrible sadness in this world, but I want him to know, I want his heart to break over the things that break God’s heart. I don’t want him to grow up thinking that every child has a life just like his. We prayed just tonight that the kids in our church would have tender hearts for the fatherless, and I’m already seeing God’s faithfulness in the compassion of my small son.

    Of course, I immediately wrapped him up in my arms and assured him that he has a mommy and that Choco found a mommy. And then we prayed for all of the children who need a mommy. We lifted up the fatherless to our great Father who knows each one of them by name. Caleb is sleeping peacefully now; he may never mention it again, or we may talk about it every day. But I am so convicted by the heart of a little three year old who understands how desperately he needs his mommy and how sad it must be not to have one. And I can’t help but wonder how many three year olds went to sleep tonight with no mommy to comfort them. Oh that God would break our hard hearts over the things that break His heart!

  • May20th

    What I’m Trying To Do . . .

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Adoption, Spiritual

    img_4576So tonight I realized that I am only left with two options right now. The time for being calm and cool, perhaps even distracted, while we wait to hear when our court date will be for our precious little Josiah is long gone. I realized tonight that I can either absolutely lose my mind worrying and obsessing and continue checking my e-mail every three minutes for the next several weeks or I have got to “BE STILL” and “WAIT PATIENTLY for HIM.” I know that right now we are not waiting on bureaucrats in Ethiopia or case workers in Oregon; we are waiting on God’s perfect timing. And on that perfect, precise moment that He ordained before the beginning of time our precious son WILL BE in our arms!

  • April30th

    No News

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Adoption

    No news on baby Josiah yet (by the way, that’s what we’ve named him, Josiah means “God will save”). We’re still waiting to hear when our court date will be.

    In the meantime, Josiah should be getting a little treat in the mail someday soon. We sent him a picture book with pictures of the special people who are waiting to love him. Hopefully, the picture book will help us to look a little bit familiar to him when we show up to take him home. If nothing else, he will get to hold something that his mommy made for him. I tried to print the Amharic words for Mommy and Daddy, etc., under the English words; I hope I got it right.

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    This weekend my sweet momma is at the Christian Alliance for Orphans Summit in Dallas. I’m kind of jealous. Wish I could have gone too. I can’t wait to hear all of the things that she learns. She’s promised to try to meet up with some Ethiopia adoption people while she’s there.

    Here at the Picker house, we are gearing up for our second big adoption garage sale next weekend. We have had so many wonderful friends and family donate stuff for our sale. Right now my garage is so full, I can barely walk through it. Last week when we went to visit some of Casey’s family, we had to rent a U-haul trailer to bring home all of the stuff they gave us.

    We are so thankful for all of you! We couldn’t make it through this process without your prayers and support. Thank you!!!

  • April27th

    Guess Who’s Three!

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Home Life & Family

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    Today is my sweet little boy’s third birthday. Where did the time go? It feels like only moments ago he was a tiny little baby. Now he’s a big, loud, sweaty boy! I am so in love with my little guy and so incredibly blessed to be his momma. I wish I could describe him for you, but all I can say is that he is exactly what a three-year-old boy should be. He loves running and splashing and getting dirty, but he also loves bringing flowers to his momma and cuddling on the couch.

    As an example of his cute personality, I’ll tell you about our trip to the farm this week. Caleb has been fascinated with all things trucks and cars for a while now, but this week he found a new love . . . the Rhino. We went to visit some of Casey’s family at the big family farm where Casey’s mom grew up and where all of her family still lives. It’s always fun to visit the family, but Caleb especially enjoyed this visit. Casey’s Uncle Kirk has a Rhino that he uses to get around the farm and take care of his chickens, etc. He was kind enough to let us ride around in it some, and Caleb is absolutely smitten. He even prayed for the Rhino the night we were there.

    The day that we left happened to be chicken selling day at the farm. Casey’s uncle raises chickens and was selling probably around 60,000 chickens while we were there. Pops took Caleb over to watch the chickens being loaded into trucks. Caleb watched as the wranglers herded the chickens into crates and stacked them up on big semi trucks (I’m sure you’ve seen these chicken trucks on the interstate before). Caleb watched quietly for a few minutes and then said to Pops, “Chickens having a bad day!”

    Here’s a picture of Caleb with Daddy and some cousins in the back of the Rhino.
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