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  • June5th

    Today . . .

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Adoption, Home Life & Family

    flag2Yesterday, there were 5 million orphans in Ethiopia, but TODAY THERE IS ONE LESS!

    We passed court!

    And now Josiah has a mommy, and a daddy, and a big brother, and four grandparents, and six aunts and uncles, and three first-cousins, and seven great-grandparents, and 20 great-aunts and uncles, and more second- and third-cousins than I can count, and hundreds and hundreds of friends waiting to love him! Yesterday he was an orphan, but TODAY HE HAS A FAMILY!

    And yesterday we were a family of three, but today we are a family of FOUR! Yesterday we had one son, and today we have TWO!

    Praise God!! We are so thankful! We are overwhelmed by His goodness and mercy and faithfulness to us! Thank you for your prayers!

    We are still waiting for our travel dates, but we will be leaving in the next few weeks to bring our son home!

    “I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you” John 14:18

  • September12th

    Are you adopted?

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Adoption, Home Life & Family

    Obviously, we have been thinking about adoption in our family a lot lately, and I’ve noticed that adoption is more common than many of us realize. In our last post, we mentioned our spiritual adoption as Christians, but there is another kind of adoption that is also very common.

    I’m talking about marriage. When we meet someone, and fall in love, and eventually marry, we are in essence adopting them. Once our families are established we don’t seem to think about this much, but it is interesting to remember that married people are not related by blood at all. In fact, most of us don’t know and love our spouses from infancy, but we would label this relationship as the deepest and most important relationship of our lives.

    Casey and I had a wonderful time last weekend with the Picker clan. One of Casey’s cousins was getting married, and the entire family came from all over the country to be with each other. As you can see in our family picture, there are a lot of us (and this is only one side of Casey’s family; the other side is as large or larger). The only person in this picture that I am blood related to is Caleb, who is sitting in my lap, but I have come to love the rest of this family very much. I didn’t meet any of them, even Casey, until I was eighteen years old, but from that very moment they have loved me and treated me as their own. They even shared their name with me. I guess you could say they adopted me.

    This all got me thinking about how very few of the most important relationships in my life are blood relationships. Before my blood-family gets all up in arms over this, let me assure you that you all make the list. But there are many, many people that I love like family that are not blood-related to me at all, spiritual aunts and uncles, cousins, and brothers and sisters that I have loved for my entire life, not to mention my own sister and all of my wonderful in-laws. If I can have cousins, aunts and uncles, grandparents, brothers and sisters, and even parents that aren’t blood relatives, my new son is going to fit right in! Maybe blood is a little over-rated anyway.

  • August24th

    We’ve been having a little trouble with obedience here at the Picker house, so I was inspired by Andrea and Elijah to have a special family day to learn more about obedience. I felt a little overwhelmed by the idea at first, but once I started it was really easy to plan activities that emphasized obedience. I only spent about twenty minutes brain storming the night before.

    Caleb and Daddy started the day by reading a book about cars and trucks and traffic rules. They talked about how even Mommy and Daddy have to obey rules when they drive the car. They talked about how there were rules about how fast to go and when to stop and that obeying the rules is what keeps us safe when we drive.

    Then after breakfast we played a game called “Mommy Says,” which is a lot like “Simon Says” only Mommy says it and there is no tricking. With a little help from Daddy, Caleb thought this was pretty fun. We then went on a drive to look for stop signs. We talked about how good Daddy was at obeying the rules when he drives and how it makes God happy when we obey.

    After Caleb’s nap, we tried a little obedience practice during snack time. I put three cookies on the table in front of him and said, “Caleb, Mommy wants you to eat this cookie first,” and I pointed to a cookie. Well, Caleb didn’t appreciate being told which cookie to eat, so after thinking about it for a minute he reached for that cookie and threw it on the ground! This exercise made it pretty clear that Caleb is strong-willed; he would rather not eat a cookie than eat the one that Mommy said to eat. This is something I will be praying for wisdom about.

    After the cookie incident, we moved out to the driveway. We drew with the sidewalk chalk, and Mommy and Daddy drew roads and stop signs to let Caleb practice driving his car and obeying the signs. Caleb thought this was pretty fun, but it bothered him that the stop signs were pink instead of red (we didn’t have any red chalk; do they even make that?). After driving the car for a while, we went to the back yard and played Red Light/Green Light. This was probably Caleb’s favorite game; he got all sweaty running back and forth.

    Later we read the story of the Battle of Jericho in Caleb’s Jesus Storybook Bible. We talked about how the Israelites had to obey God’s instructions exactly and how God protected them because they obeyed. We pretended to march around Jericho (the coffee table) and made as much noise as possible.

    For supper, Caleb helped Mommy make pancakes. We talked about how we had to obey the instructions in the recipe or the pancakes wouldn’t taste good. After supper, we finished our family day by watching the Veggie Tales Jonah movie. Caleb loved this so much that he cried when it was over. Veggie Tales are his new favorite, though he still loves Curious George. We talked about how sad it was that Jonah decided to disobey God and how he got in trouble for not obeying. I think Caleb understood this pretty well; this morning when I asked him about Jonah he said, “Jonah not obey.”

    We really had a fun family day. I hope we can try to do this again soon, maybe monthly. I know that Caleb really enjoyed all the special attention and games, and we felt good that we were all having fun while teaching something very important. I don’t know if this will help with Caleb’s obedience or not, but it has certainly given us more opportunities to talk about obeying.

    See more pictures from our family day.

  • February14th

    Happy Valentine’s Day!

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Home Life & Family

    Valentine

    To all our wonderful friends and family: We love you and thank God for you!
    Happy Valentine’s Day!

  • November25th

    Thanksgiving 2007

    Author: Casey | Posted in: Home Life & Family, Spiritual

    Thanksgiving TableThis year we stayed home for Thanksgiving and had dinner with Mary Beth’s family. We had such a wonderful time spending the day with family and laughing together. There was some amazing food, and even more amazing desserts!

    Mary Beth made a really neat centerpiece. She took a bare tree branch, cut out a bunch of multi-colored paper leaves, and we all wrote things we were thankful for and placed them on the tree. It was a very neat idea and I think everyone enjoyed it.

    Now that Thanksgiving is over, it’s time to start looking forward to Christmas. Our family went to go pick out our Christmas tree yesterday, and I’m sure I’ll put up the Christmas lights very soon. It’s also time to break out all of the Christmas music once again. What a wonderful time of year!

    Our family had a wonderful weekend, and we are thankful for many things. God has blessed us with so much more than we could have ever imagined. I pray that we can teach Caleb to have a thankful heart as he grows up. God loves it when we have an attitude of gratitude! I hope your family had a wonderful Thanksgiving.

    » See our Thanksgiving Photos

  • October2nd

    Billy Boy

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Home Life & Family

    Billy and Mary BethI have been avoiding this post for several days because it is extremely overwhelming to think of how to sum up Billy in a blog post. As I mentioned in my post about Mihaela, my relationship with Billy had a slightly rocky start. I really did not want to believe that he was a boy. I already had a brother, and I figured one brother is the same as another, but it turns out I was wrong.

    Since the moment that Billy was born, we have had a very special bond. Billy is nine years younger than me; and, while that may have been fairly common in generations past, it is uncommon in this generation. I rarely meet people that also have siblings almost a decade younger than them, but I believe that being Billy’s older sister has been a particular blessing in my life. Being so much older than Billy gave me a unique perspective of his life; it was very different than my perspective of Allan’s life. I really got to watch Billy grow up and enjoy his childhood. I could appreciate how adorable he was and take great pride in his accomplishments without ever feeling competitive. I could see his flaws in relationship to his wonderful character, without mistaking his flaws for his character. As I look back, I wish I could have had a similar understanding of Allan, who was only three years younger than me (more on him later).

    Billy was a wonderfully unique kid. I have never known a little child more in love with God; he used to tell people that he wanted to be a prophet when he grew up! He also could be really funny when he wanted to be; I’ll never forget watching him pretend to be “the beast” from Beauty and the Beast.

    Another interesting facet of my relationship with Billy is that I actually got to be his English teacher when he was in the 10th grade. I got a job at the school that he goes to, and I ended up teaching his Pre-AP class. What a wonderful experience! How often do big sisters actually get to grade their little brothers? I couldn’t wait to send a note home to his parents! But he really was a wonderful student, and he lovingly forgave me when I accidentally called him “Billy Boy” in front of the whole class.

    If I could, I would see to it that everybody had a “Billy” in their life. Now that Billy is almost grown, he has become a source of strength, wisdom, and encouragement to me. I am so in awe of his deep love for God and his desire to serve Him. I often pray that Caleb will have a similar passion for God when he grows up. I cannot wait to see all of the wonderful things that Billy will accomplish in his lifetime. It’s going to be so sad to watch him leave home next year, but I know that he is ready. I’m just not sure if the world is ready for Billy!

    PS – We recently found out that Billy qualified as a National Merit Semifinalist! Hip, hip, hooray!

  • September24th

    A Little Sister

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Home Life & Family

    MihaelaMy buddy Sam recently inspired me with his series of posts about the members of his family. I thought I would steal his idea and write about the people that make up my family, beyond Casey and Caleb, whom I write about often; if this works out well, maybe we can convince Casey to write about his family also. I thought I would start with the youngest and work my way up, so today’s post is about my little sister, Mihaela.

    I remember praying for a little sister when I was very young. I also remember very clearly the day my mom brought home the sonogram picture of our new baby: a boy. I was eight years old, and I have to admit I was quite disappointed. I remember crying and asking her if she were very sure; you see, I already had a brother.

    My little sister was a long time coming; in fact, I was eighteen when I finally got her, and she was eleven years younger than me, which is not exactly what I had in mind. But I am always amazed by how much greater God’s plans are than my own.

    We adopted Mihaela from Romania when she was seven years old. She was skinny and malnourished and didn’t speak a word of English. She had spent her entire life in Romanian orphanages. She had absolutely nothing; in fact, we had to bring a change of clothes for her to the orphanage because she didn’t even own the clothes that she wore. Her hair was cut short like a little boy’s, because that was easier for the orphanage staff to care for. Even though we were complete strangers to her, she was very happy to go with us, which proves how miserable the orphanage must have been. I will never forget seeing the little bed that she slept in; it was a baby bed with out the railings, but it was half the size of Caleb’s crib and was lined up along the wall with probably twenty other beds.

    Bringing Mihaela home was harder than any of us would have expected. The adjustment period was many years long, and more trying than I can even explain. But Mihaela has been a great blessing to me and to our entire family. She has taught me so much about real, faithful love, and about following God even when things don’t turn out like you expected.

    Mihaela is one of the funniest girls you will meet. She loves to laugh, and I love the glimmer she gets in her eyes when she has said something funny. She is also a very observant and encouraging person; she notices everything from new socks to a new haircut and is always full of compliments. Mihaela is very aware of people that are suffering or lonely. She is compassionate and often befriends them.

    I love Mihaela very much, and I am so glad that God brought her into my family. She is a wonderful sister and also a wonderful aunt; Caleb loves his Aunt Mimi very much!

    More family entries to come; next up: Billy!

  • June23rd

    GranddadCasey’s granddad passed away this week. Some of you may remember the post that I wrote about him last year. We got to see him a few days before he died, and we are so glad that we made the trip.

    I’m reminded of John Donne’s Holy Sonnet X:

    Death, be not proud, though some have called thee
    Mighty and dreadful, for thou are not so;
    For those whom thou think’st thou dost overthrow
    Die not, poor Death, nor yet canst thou kill me.
    From rest and sleep, which but thy pictures be,
    Much pleasure; then from thee much more must flow,
    And soonest our best men with thee do go,
    Rest of their bones, and soul’s delivery.
    Thou art slave to fate, chance, kings, and desperate men,
    And dost with poison, war, and sickness dwell,
    And poppy or charms can make us sleep as well
    And better than thy stroke; why swell’st thou then?
    One short sleep past, we wake eternally,
    And death shall be no more; Death, thou shalt die.

    -John Donne, 1633

    As our nephew said, “Don’t be sad Mommy; Granddad is in heaven.”

    “And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, ‘Behold, the dwelling place of God is with man. He will dwell with them, and they will be his people, and God himself will be with them as their God. He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning nor crying nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.’” Revelation 21:3-4

  • June19th

    Who’s in Control?

    Author: Casey | Posted in: Home Life & Family, Spiritual

    Mary Beth and I have been praying about and discussing the issue of birth control a lot lately. I’m ashamed to admit that we’ve been married for five years and this is the first time that we’ve really spent much time on this issue. I don’t know why we didn’t have these conversations before we got married except that birth control has really become a non-issue in our fellowship. In fact, neither of us can remember ever hearing anyone talk about the biblical arguments for or against birth control and we both went to a Christian college. But, over the last few years, we have been reading Touchstone Magazine, which we highly recommend by the way, and this is a subject that they write about frequently.

    The article “Children of the Reformation” appeared in a recent issue of the magazine and has really given us more to think about. I didn’t realize that Protestant churches only began accepting birth control within the last 75 years or so. After reading the article, we are beginning to fear that pro-abortion arguments are not a far jump from pro-birth control arguments.

    Mary Beth and I are serious about seeking the heart of God on this issue. We are desperate for input from any and all followers of Christ. If you are single or married, if you’ve commented before or if this is your first time, please read the linked article and share your thoughts on this issue with us. We are seeking biblical arguments for or against birth control. Here are some questions we are seeking to answer:

    1. Why do we not discuss this issue in our churches?
    2. Are Christians using birth control because we are seeking to control this huge part of our lives and we are afraid to allow God full reign?
    3. Does the story of Onan in Genesis 38 apply or not? We’ve heard arguments that Onan’s story is really about his heart, but how are our hearts different when we use birth control?
    4. How has the use of birth control changed our lives, besides reducing the number of children we have?
    5. Is there a difference between using a contraceptive and “natural family planning“? If birth control is wrong, does that include “natural family planning“?
    6. Are we really pro-life in all areas of our life? Are children a reward from God always, or only when they are convenient to us?

    Again, we are still seeking answers to this issue, it is not our wish to offend or judge anyone. Please share with us your views. We realize that reading this article could be slightly time consuming, but we feel that this issue is worth the time. Thanks.

    UPDATE

    Mary Beth and I have found these radio broadcasts by Family Life very helpful in gaining a deeper understanding of this issue…

  • June5th

    They’re Married!

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Home Life & Family

    allans-wedding-blog.pngAllan and Lindsay were married Saturday, June 2. The wedding was beautiful, and we were all glad to be a part of such a wonderful day. I know that God will bless many people through Allan and Lindsay because they are both eager to serve Him. We are so excited about sharing the rest of our lives with them, and Caleb is very happy that Lindsay is officially his aunt now.

    Congratulations, Allan and Lindsay! We love you!

    See more wedding pictures . . .