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  • September9th

    First Day of Preschool

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Home Life & Family

    We interrupt all of this Ethiopia and Orphan Care blogging to bring you . . . Caleb’s First Day of Preschool.

    Let’s face it; it’s tough being the oldest, as I know from personal experience. For a few years you’ve got a sweet deal, and then your house starts filling up with little kids, and your once-relaxed parents become exhausted and stressed out. You think with longing of the “good ol’ days” when you had all of their attention to yourself. Ah . . . those days are OVER.

    Our sweet little Caleb has turned into a wonderful big brother, but even the best big brother needs a break from time to time. This week Caleb started Preschool for the first time. He’s only going three mornings a week, but it’s the perfect chance for him to have some Big Boy Time away from all the craziness at home. I kind of wish I could join him.


    Not the best picture of us, but I love that the little kids are banging on the windows. They never want to be left out.


    So here they are with “Bubba” (yes, that’s what children call their brothers in The South).


    And here’s Caleb, happy as a lark, just as I left him. He had no tears and barely even noticed when I left. I have to confess that I wiped away a few in the parking lot. I can’t believe how big he is.

  • May1st

    Caleb Turns 4

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Home Life & Family

    This week was Caleb’s 4th birthday.  On Tuesday, we woke him up with cinnamon rolls before the kids and I went to Bible Study.

    That evening, Casey and I took him on a special “date” while Josiah stayed with Grandma.  We went to eat at a Hibachi Grill.  Caleb had a wonderful time and loved watching our chef chop, toss, and spin everything.  Caleb ended up eating almost an entire plate of fried rice.  Yummy!  After that, we went to see Oceans at the movie theater.

    Today we had friends over for a small birthday party.  After tornadoes ripped through our area all night last night, we were expecting to have to move our outdoor party indoors.  But the weather cleared up for a few hours this afternoon, though it was incredibly hot and muggy, so we had a few games outside before coming in for cupcakes.

    Here is Caleb with some of his best buds.

    Check out some of these same kids at his 1st Birthday party.

    It’s hard to believe how much they’ve grown in what seems like such a short time!  I’m so proud of my sweet little boy.  He is such a blessing in our home!

    On the adoption front, we received the news this week that we have a court date scheduled for May 18.  We’re praying that we will pass court on that day.  It is pretty common to be postponed or rescheduled, but please pray that we will pass!  Once we pass we will be able to travel to bring home Evelyn 6-8 weeks later!  Oh, I can’t wait to get that girl in my arms!

  • June11th

    Caleb Kurtis

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Home Life & Family

    No news on our travel dates yet, but I feel a great peace about it, even though I have been so anxious throughout this process. Has God not proven Himself to me?? He has been so faithful to us; I have to trust that His timing is perfect. I know that we will be with Josiah at the exact moment that He has planned.

    In the meantime, I am trying to enjoy the first special treasure that He gave me: Caleb Kurtis. I know I’m his momma, but I have to say that this kid is special. If you haven’t met him, you are missing out! I’m trying to soak up these last moments, realizing that he will never be an only child again. Of course, he is always going to be our precious son, and we will always be absolutely in love with him, but things are about to change. I know that I will savor memories from these last three years for the rest of my life.

    Here are some pictures of my crazy kid:

    Isn't he adorable?

    Isn’t he adorable?

    Not really into the picture thing.

    Not really in to the picture thing.

    Cool guy.

    Cool guy.

    I refuse to cooperate.

    I refuse to cooperate.

    The squinty face he makes sometimes.

    The squinty face he makes sometimes.

    Just my crazy kid.

    Just my crazy kid.

  • May25th

    behavior_chartMary Beth and I have been struggling to come up with incentives to help Caleb obey. It seemed like whatever punishment or reward we would try, he just wasn’t interested in being obedient.

    After thinking on the matter for a while, we decided to come up with a “Behavior Chart.” For every day he is obedient, he can get up to two stickers on his chart: one for the morning and one for the afternoon. We let Caleb come up with what kind of reward he would get when he reached three stickers. Being my son, he decided on a reward involving food, specifically donuts. :)

    Well, last night Caleb reached the ultimate goal: three stickers! Caleb requested to ride in daddy’s fast “race car” on the way to the donut shop. So, this morning we set out on a mission in my “fast race car” to find donuts. After unsuccessfully reaching two closed donut shops, we finally found one that was open and enjoyed our breakfast together.

    I’m very proud of my boy for learning to be more patient and slow to anger. I pray that God will continue to work in his heart to someday become the man that God wants him to be. I’m so thankful to be his dad.

  • April27th

    Guess Who’s Three!

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Home Life & Family

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    Today is my sweet little boy’s third birthday. Where did the time go? It feels like only moments ago he was a tiny little baby. Now he’s a big, loud, sweaty boy! I am so in love with my little guy and so incredibly blessed to be his momma. I wish I could describe him for you, but all I can say is that he is exactly what a three-year-old boy should be. He loves running and splashing and getting dirty, but he also loves bringing flowers to his momma and cuddling on the couch.

    As an example of his cute personality, I’ll tell you about our trip to the farm this week. Caleb has been fascinated with all things trucks and cars for a while now, but this week he found a new love . . . the Rhino. We went to visit some of Casey’s family at the big family farm where Casey’s mom grew up and where all of her family still lives. It’s always fun to visit the family, but Caleb especially enjoyed this visit. Casey’s Uncle Kirk has a Rhino that he uses to get around the farm and take care of his chickens, etc. He was kind enough to let us ride around in it some, and Caleb is absolutely smitten. He even prayed for the Rhino the night we were there.

    The day that we left happened to be chicken selling day at the farm. Casey’s uncle raises chickens and was selling probably around 60,000 chickens while we were there. Pops took Caleb over to watch the chickens being loaded into trucks. Caleb watched as the wranglers herded the chickens into crates and stacked them up on big semi trucks (I’m sure you’ve seen these chicken trucks on the interstate before). Caleb watched quietly for a few minutes and then said to Pops, “Chickens having a bad day!”

    Here’s a picture of Caleb with Daddy and some cousins in the back of the Rhino.
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  • March9th

    2img_4005I have piles of laundry to fold and iron, book-keeping to do, and dishes to wash, but today I want to write about Caleb.

    I cannot imagine a cuter kid. He makes us laugh all the time. His favorite things right now include playing soccer with Daddy, listening to “George music” (aka Jack Johnson’s Curious George soundtrack), and playing with his many stuffed animals (especially the Chip and Dale that Daddy bought him in Orlando, the Larry that Aunt Laura and AnnaBelle gave him, and, of couse, the old favorite, Curious George). He is talking our ears off now! He talks constantly about anything and everything. The other day he was walking around the house saying, “I’m going to work on the computer to build a website.” His vocabulary seems to have doubled lately; there is little that he can’t explain or ask for.

    Over the last few weeks, he has started to pretend a lot more. He likes to pretend that he is Curious George, or Larry the Cucumber, or Christopher Robin, or Mickey Mouse. Of course, if he is George, or Larry, or Christoper Robin, or Mickey, then Casey and I have to fill the complementary rolls of “the man with the yellow hat,” or Bob the Tomato, or Winnie-the-Pooh, or Goofy. And, naturally, all of the actors have to be prepared to change character at a moment’s notice. One minute, I think that I am Minnie Mouse, and I am acting my heart out when I am suddenly informed that I am actually Junior Asparagus! I am certainly getting the chance to polish my nearly non-existent acting skills.

    Caleb also loves to read books, which, of course, is one of my greatest desires for my children. He will sit through as many books as we will read to him. For such an active and crazy almost-three-year-old, his attention span is really great when it comes to books. In the past we have mainly read picture books with plenty of bright colors to keep his focus, but just this past week I started reading to him The House at Pooh Corner by A. A. Milne. There aren’t as many pictures in this book, and sometimes there will be two or three pages with no pictures at all, but he is still content to sit in my lap and listen to the stories, which are much longer, with more character development, than most little children’s books.

    Some of my favorite childhood memories are of my daddy reading novels out loud to our whole family. Because I have two brothers, I was forced to sit through Kidnapped and Treasure Island, but he also read Silas Marner and others. There is something so beautiful about hearing the words of a story spoken out loud and imagining it in your mind instead of being fed someone else’s interpretation through their images.

    I hope that Caleb will continue to develop his attention span and wonderful imagination. Casey and I already have a long list of books that we are eager to read aloud to him when he is ready. He is such a wonderful blessing; we are cherishing every moment of being his parents.

    Just another little moment that I want to remember: Several nights ago I crept into his room while he was sleeping to pray for him. We had had a rough day, and, after he went to bed, I spent the evening flipping through parenting books, trying to figure out what I was doing wrong. While I was praying by his bed, I was having one of those anxious parenting moments, wondering if he is going to grow up to know what is right and to love God, or if I am completely ruining him with my own flaws. As I prayed over his life and his future, in his sleep, Caleb began to sing out loud, “God of wonders, beyond our galaxy, You are holy! Holy!” Wow! It brought tears to my eyes and gave me peace over all my anxious thoughts. I felt like God was reminding me that Caleb’s soul and future are in His hands, and not mine. What a relief! What a blessing to get to watch this little soul fall in love with God!

  • August24th

    We’ve been having a little trouble with obedience here at the Picker house, so I was inspired by Andrea and Elijah to have a special family day to learn more about obedience. I felt a little overwhelmed by the idea at first, but once I started it was really easy to plan activities that emphasized obedience. I only spent about twenty minutes brain storming the night before.

    Caleb and Daddy started the day by reading a book about cars and trucks and traffic rules. They talked about how even Mommy and Daddy have to obey rules when they drive the car. They talked about how there were rules about how fast to go and when to stop and that obeying the rules is what keeps us safe when we drive.

    Then after breakfast we played a game called “Mommy Says,” which is a lot like “Simon Says” only Mommy says it and there is no tricking. With a little help from Daddy, Caleb thought this was pretty fun. We then went on a drive to look for stop signs. We talked about how good Daddy was at obeying the rules when he drives and how it makes God happy when we obey.

    After Caleb’s nap, we tried a little obedience practice during snack time. I put three cookies on the table in front of him and said, “Caleb, Mommy wants you to eat this cookie first,” and I pointed to a cookie. Well, Caleb didn’t appreciate being told which cookie to eat, so after thinking about it for a minute he reached for that cookie and threw it on the ground! This exercise made it pretty clear that Caleb is strong-willed; he would rather not eat a cookie than eat the one that Mommy said to eat. This is something I will be praying for wisdom about.

    After the cookie incident, we moved out to the driveway. We drew with the sidewalk chalk, and Mommy and Daddy drew roads and stop signs to let Caleb practice driving his car and obeying the signs. Caleb thought this was pretty fun, but it bothered him that the stop signs were pink instead of red (we didn’t have any red chalk; do they even make that?). After driving the car for a while, we went to the back yard and played Red Light/Green Light. This was probably Caleb’s favorite game; he got all sweaty running back and forth.

    Later we read the story of the Battle of Jericho in Caleb’s Jesus Storybook Bible. We talked about how the Israelites had to obey God’s instructions exactly and how God protected them because they obeyed. We pretended to march around Jericho (the coffee table) and made as much noise as possible.

    For supper, Caleb helped Mommy make pancakes. We talked about how we had to obey the instructions in the recipe or the pancakes wouldn’t taste good. After supper, we finished our family day by watching the Veggie Tales Jonah movie. Caleb loved this so much that he cried when it was over. Veggie Tales are his new favorite, though he still loves Curious George. We talked about how sad it was that Jonah decided to disobey God and how he got in trouble for not obeying. I think Caleb understood this pretty well; this morning when I asked him about Jonah he said, “Jonah not obey.”

    We really had a fun family day. I hope we can try to do this again soon, maybe monthly. I know that Caleb really enjoyed all the special attention and games, and we felt good that we were all having fun while teaching something very important. I don’t know if this will help with Caleb’s obedience or not, but it has certainly given us more opportunities to talk about obeying.

    See more pictures from our family day.

  • August13th

    Encore

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Home Life & Family, Spiritual

    An encore for all of Caleb’s fans. Yep, he’s still singing.

    Watch the Video

  • July12th

    Caleb the Worship Leader

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Home Life & Family

    Caleb is crazy about all kinds of music, he loves to play his guitar and drum. If there were a Guitar Hero or Rock Band game for toddlers, he would be a pro. But his favorite music is worship music. He runs around the house singing worship songs all day, and he often insists that I sit on the floor and play his toy drum while singing the song of his choice. I have no talent as a drummer, so it can be somewhat challenging to play and sing. He also likes for me to play his Fisher-Price toy guitar which plays a few songs while singing his current favorite worship song, this, as you can imagine, can also be difficult. However, Mommy on the toy drums is no match for Uncle Allan playing the real guitar and singing. Caleb could sit and listen to him for hours; every time that Allan finishes a song Caleb calls out another one for him. He thinks Allan is his own personal worship DJ.

    We haven’t really tried to teach him any worship songs; he just picks them up at church or from the music we listen to in the car. We are always surprised by what he knows. Every week or so he gets a new favorite. For a while his favorite was “Refiner’s Fire,” then it was “How Great is Our God,” then “Praise Adonai;” yesterday he woke up singing “Come Into My Heart, Lord Jesus,” and today his new favorite is “Holy is the Lord, God Almighty.”

    I’ve been trying for months to videotape him singing, but he always refuses to cooperate. Finally, today Casey got some great footage. As you can see, he is using the wooden spoon as his guitar. He’s going to be a wonderful worship leader someday; I just hope he learns to stand still a little first. And yes, we’ll be getting him into music lessons as soon as he’s ready.

    Watch the Video

  • May21st

    Meet George

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Home Life & Family

    For Caleb’s birthday, Uncle Allan and Aunt Lindsay gave him a Curious George doll. Caleb has been infatuated with Curious George ever since a friend gave him one of the books last fall, and he loves to watch the Curious George movie. When he opened the present, it was love at first sight. He and George have been inseparable since that moment.

    George has almost become another member of our family. He goes with us everywhere. George has been to Target, Community Bible Study, Walmart, Grandma’s house, house church, and bible class (these are the places that we frequent). George has been introduced to all of our friends, who were of course delighted to meet him. I have almost felt like George has become another child to me; I wash his shirt occasionally, clean him up when he’s dirty, and I even had to stitch up a hole in his tummy.

    I realized how attached I have become to George yesterday when we nearly lost him at Kohl’s. We had been shopping all morning with George and Caleb in the stroller; when we left the store and started to get in the car, I realized that George was missing. We rushed back in the store and searched for him everywhere; I even asked a couple uninterested clerks if they had seen him. Just as we were about to lose all hope, I found him lying on the floor in the home goods department. What a relief!

    My only comfort during all of the searching was that we have always tried to do our best by George. We have tried very hard to teach him about Jesus (through his various trips to bible study and church). Yesterday morning, before we left for the store, I walked into the kitchen in time to see Caleb put George in his booster seat, look him straight in the eye, and say emphatically, “Obey God!”, which is something I’m sure George needed to hear. I only wish George would give Caleb the same reminder from time to time.