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  • August13th

    Ethiopia Day One

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Adoption, Travel

    I’m going to try to write about each of the eight amazing days that we spent in Ethiopia. We landed in Addis Ababa on the morning of Thursday, July 23. After working our way through the Visa line (much shorter than we expected) and customs, and retrieving all six of our bags, we were met in the terminal by one of Holt’s drivers, Dawit. What a kind and friendly face to be met by at such an anxious moment. Dawit was so warm and hospitable, exactly the kind of person you would like to meet in a foreign country. In our experience, we found that most Ethiopians are warm and friendly; it didn’t take long for us to fall in love with these beautiful people.

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    He drove us from the airport to the Union Hotel. Casey and I were nearly silent the whole way; there was so much to see and take in. One of the first things that struck me about Ethiopia was the beautiful landscape. No one had told me what a beautiful country Ethiopia is. Green mountains and rolling hills are everywhere.

    We were also overwhelmed by the number of people. Addis is a city of over 3.5 million. Everywhere you look there are people, and donkeys, and goats that are spray painted pink (we never figured out why), and cars, and buses, and shops. All this congestion and absolutely no stoplights or stop signs. There is lots of honking and waving, but we never saw anyone get mad or lose their temper. Somehow we always ended up where we were supposed to be, but there were a few times I had to close my eyes as we passed uncomfortably close to a bus or crowd of people. Their buses are about the size of a fifteen-passenger van, but they can crowd an amazing number of people into them. Thankfully we never had to experience that.

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    Our hotel was right next door to the Holt Care Center where Josiah had lived for the last several months. It was hard to drive by the building knowing that he was in there but we couldn’t see him for another day.
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    We were very pleased with our hotel room; it was big and comfortable, very clean. We could definitely recommend the Union Hotel to anyone who is staying in Addis. Usually the electricity was out during the day, but I think that’s pretty normal for Ethiopia. Casey and I got a little chuckle out of the toilet paper instructions that were over the toilet. What are the quotation marks for?
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    After catching up on our sleep for the next few hours, we visited Kebetsehay Children’s Home, which is a government orphanage in Addis for children birth through 13 years old. We went to visit our sponsor child, Bete, but when we got there we found out that Bete had recently been adopted by a German family. Hooray for Bete! We were sad that we didn’t get to meet her, but so, so happy to hear that she now has a family. We still had a great time playing with the kids. We brought a huge duffel bag of donations for the orphanage, medicine, school supplies, soccer balls, etc. The kids were naturally very excited about the candy, bracelets, and stickers we passed out.
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    Casey made friends with a couple of the older boys, while I had a little girl following me around most of the afternoon. I probably spent the most time in the baby room. The little babies were so beautiful. It was evident that the nannies at Kebetsehay love the children very much and were working very hard to care for them, but they are still in great need. The babies lying in cribs will break your heart. There was one little baby who was crying when I walked by. I tried to comfort her and offered my finger for her to hold. She held on tightly and quieted a little, but every time I tried to walk away she would start crying again. It was so hard to finally pull away after standing by her crib for about thirty minutes. Sweet, sweet, girl. I pray that God is providing for her every need right now, and that she will have a family some day soon.

    As we were starting to say our goodbyes to all the sweet kids, it began to rain, big, splattering drops. During the rainy season in Ethiopia, big thunderstorms blow in and out with little warning. As we drove back through the Mercato, Africa’s largest market, on our way back to our hotel, we watched as water filled the muddy streets. Some people huddled under shop awnings, and some just walked through the rain.

    We were glad to have a quiet night, since we had so much to think about from our day at Kebetsehay. During our dinner at the Union, we were able to visit with one of the other Holt families, Jeff and Bethany, along with Bethany’s aunt Robin. Most of the families wouldn’t arrive until later, but it was nice to have the chance to get to know Jeff and Bethany and hear about the several days that they spent at a children’s home in Hosanna, Ethiopia earlier that week. Jeff and Bethany have a son from Ethiopia who is almost exactly the same age as Caleb, and they were in Ethiopia again to adopt their daughter.

    Needless to say, Day One in Ethiopia was a very blessed and full day. We went to bed exhausted but ready to meet our boy in the morning!

  • August11th

    Still here . . .

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Adoption, Home Life & Family

    smallIMG_5909We’re still here, and doing great! We are so blessed to have little Josiah home with us; he is a joy to everyone who meets him. Of course, there’s still plenty of adjusting going on. I am learning that keeping everyone clothed, fed, and happy is a full-time job (hence no blogging recently), but I am so thankful to be blessed with this job.

    Caleb is still not sure what to think about his baby brother. I think he misses having Momma and Daddy to himself. He hinted at his slight dissatisfaction with the new situation when he casually mentioned to me, “If baby Josiah keeps fussing, you’re going to have to take him back to ‘Epeeopia.’” Of course I immediately explained that Josiah is here to stay, to be in our family forever and ever, just like Caleb. I don’t think it sunk in because later that afternoon he tried again with, “Maybe tomorrow we can take baby brother back to Africa??” I can’t say I didn’t laugh. It was such an honest emotion. If I had known you could send baby brothers to Africa, I’m sure I would have tried it myself.

    Overall, we are doing very, very well. I’ve been really surprised at how well Josiah seems to have adjusted to our family. We’ve been amazed by his developmental gains over the last two weeks. It seems he’s made two months of progress in only a few weeks.

    We will be blogging about Ethiopia in the near future. We had an amazing trip, and I can’t wait to tell you about it. We will also be posting pictures; I know everyone is anxious to see them. In the mean time, our pictures from Rome are posted in the photos section of the blog. We had a great three days in Rome, but I won’t bore you with the details, as I’m sure you’ve heard of Rome before.

  • August2nd

    Home, Sweet Home

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Adoption, Home Life & Family

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    Yes, we’re home with our beautiful baby boy. Our trip was amazing, and it is wonderful being home with both of our boys. There’s more to come . . . we promise. It just may take a while.

  • July25th

    Meeting Day

    Author: Casey | Posted in: Random Thoughts

    IMG_5672This is the first picture of us with our sweet boy, Josiah!

  • July23rd

    Meet My New Friends

    Author: Casey | Posted in: Adoption, Travel

    Mary Beth and I arrived in Addis this morning to be greeted by our friendly driver, David. He took us to our hotel and gave us some tips about Ethiopian culture and some other very good practical advice about our stay.

    After checking in at our hotel, we called one of the field coordinators who works for the organization that we sponsor a child through. He picked us up to take us to visit Bete (pronounced Betty) and also bring some gifts to the other children at the orphanage.

    When we arrived at the orphanage, there were many children outside swarming one of the caretakers who was passing out candy. It was out of control! At that point, we decided it would be better for the staff to pass out our gifts for us in an orderly manner. The children seemed very happy to receive their small gifts (candy, stickers, and bracelets).

    Later on, we found out that Bete had been adopted by a German family! Praise the Lord! It was a little sad that we did not get to meet her, but we are so overjoyed that she now has a family of her own!

    After giving the children their gifts, we went into one of the baby rooms at the orphanage. I will never forget all of the children lying in their cribs in this room. Some of them were only six months old, but they could hold their own bottle. They’ve obviously learned that skill to help them survive. I think I will remember these children’s faces for the rest of my life.

    One of the things that seemed to be a big hit with the older kids was taking pictures of them. I would take their picture and then show it to them on the camera display afterwards. They LOVED it! This was really the best way for me to bond with the children, since we couldn’t really understand eachother. This was how I met my two new friends: Brook and Musa.

    I saw Musa standing a few yards away from me and I motioned with the camera to see if he wanted me to take his picture. He smiled bashfully and I snapped a shot of him. Afterwards, I told him my name and we shook hands.

    I saw one of the older boys, Brook, standing quietly on the steps looking on at all the commotion. I walked over to him, took his picture, and we shook hands. He had one of the brightest smiles I’ve ever seen.

    During the rest of our visit, these two boys never left my side. Musa would reach down and hold my hand, and I would put my arms over their shoulders. I could tell that they were soaking it all up.

    Eventhough I was only with these boys for less than an hour, I could realize how much they long to have a father. My heart aches for these millions of Ethiopian boys that will grow up without one. I wish we could adopt all of them, but God has a special boy picked out just for us.

    Tomorrow we will meet Josiah for the first time. It will be an honor to be called his ‘abaya’ (father). Thanks for all your prayers and encouragement!

  • July18th

    Ready or Not?

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Adoption, Spiritual

    We’re ready. The bags are packed. We’re leaving at the crack of dawn, and we’re about to take the greatest leap of faith we’ve ever taken.

    We’re greatly anticipating His faithfulness and blessings as we step out on our biggest adventure yet.

    “O LORD, you are my God; I will exalt you; I will praise your name, for you have done wonderful things, plans formed of old, faithful and sure.”
    ~Isaiah 25:1

  • July16th

    Early Sunday morning, Mary Beth and I will be flying out to Ethiopia to go get our son, Josiah. This is the culmination of a lot of prayers, planning, worrying, paperwork, and waiting that we’ve been experiencing over the past year. We are overjoyed at the thought of getting to hold our boy within the week!

    We wish that we could take all of our friends and family on this journey with us, but we realize that that’s not a possibility. We know that God is going to open our eyes to the poverty and need of Ethiopia while we’re there, and we want everyone that we know to share that experience with us.

    Here are a few ways that you can share in our journey to bring home Josiah:

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    Hopefully that will give everyone enough ways to share in this life changing experience with us while we’re there. We can’t wait for all of you to meet Josiah when we return home on the 31st. Please pray that our travel will go smoothly and safely. Thank you for all of your love and support throughout this entire process. Praise the Lord!

  • July5th

    A Walking Billboard

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Adoption, Home Life & Family

    adoption_billboardThe countdown has officially started; in a little less than two weeks, Casey and I will be boarding a plane, beginning the last leg of our journey to bring our son home. As you can imagine, we are so excited. We can’t believe that this moment, that we’ve been waiting for and dreaming of for a year, is only days away.

    As I fold Caleb’s baby clothes and pack them in a suitcase, reality is beginning to settle in. This isn’t make-believe any more. This time next month we will be home with our little guy; we will be a family of four. And while there is all the thrill and excitement of bringing home a new baby, there is also a bit of anxiety. We knew this would be an adventure when we signed up. And now that it’s time to pack our bags, we feel the need to take a deep breath and prepare ourselves, as much as possible, for the challenges that we will face as adoptive parents.

    And one of the challenges we’ve worried about, talked about, and prayed about is the attention and commentary that we will draw as a biracial family. As Heather writes so descriptively on her blog, “When we said, ‘Yes…we will parent an African American child,’ we also signed up to be a walking billboard for adoption and race issues.” Casey and I know this is going to be a part of our lives; we expect it, and it is our greatest desire to handle all comments and questions graciously, in a way that honors God.

    However, while we expect crazy comments and questions from strangers at Target, we hope and pray that our family and friends will be a safe haven for us, that they will work with us to protect Josiah from insensitive comments or inappropriate questions.

    Discussing adoption can be tricky. Casey and I have both found ourselves tripping over the appropriate words from time to time, and we know that the majority of inappropriate comments come from a lack of experience or understanding about adoption.

    So we would like to take this opportunity to ask those of you who are and will be a significant part of our lives and Josiah’s life to take a few moments to think and pray about the following list of suggestions. Will you help us protect Josiah and other adopted children from rude or insensitive comments?

    1) Please don’t say things like, “Caleb is theirs . . . and then they adopted Josiah.” They are both ours. We truly believe that from the beginning God has intended Caleb and Josiah, and any other children we may be blessed with in the future, to be in our family. We believe that Josiah has always been a Picker, even though he was conceived in Africa and carried by his birth mother. It takes very little imagination to understand the damage that kind of phrasing can have on a child.

    2) Please be sensitive about the kind of adoption questions you ask us in front of Josiah. If you are interested in adoption, we will always be glad to talk to you about it, but we would like for our son to be a normal kid as much as possible and not have to constantly deal with the topic of his adoption.

    3) Some of you close to us may know about Josiah’s early situation. Please be very careful with this information. It is something that we will not discuss with people outside of our close family and friends, and it is something that you should never discuss with Josiah. Naturally we will be discussing his origins with him often, but that information will be best handled between Josiah and ourselves. Also, please do not share this information with your children. It is enough to say that Josiah needed a mommy and daddy, and we needed a little boy. We can all remember foolish things that we said as children, and we would hate for personal facts about Josiah’s early life to be used against him as ammunition by his friends or cousins.

    4) Another comment that we’ve heard a lot is “He [Josiah] sure is a lucky/blessed little boy.” We’ve struggled with this comment because, on the one hand, it is true. He is blessed to have a family, just as we all are. A lot of times this comment seems to come from a desire to compliment us for being great parents or for doing a great thing, and while we certainly appreciate the parenting encouragement, we want to make it abundantly clear that we do no great things . . . it is God who has done great things. We don’t want Josiah to be viewed as a charity case; he is our son. The truth is that we are all charity cases, we were all once orphans, and those of us who have been adopted and received salvation through Christ are abundantly blessed.

    We hope that none of this has been offensive to you, but if it has been challenging we hope that you will take the time to pray about it and discuss it with us. We thought it would be best for us to approach this topic head on, rather than deal with these issues after the fact. We hope to help create a culture of adoption among our family and friends, and identifying appropriate lingo is an important step in that process. If you would like to read more, Heather, whose blog I love, has written an insightful post on the topic.

    We are extremely blessed to be surrounded by so many loving people as we embark on this adventure. Please understand that we will all be learning through this process. We can’t wait to see the ways that God will bless all of us through Josiah.

  • June29th

    Travel!

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Adoption, Travel

    ethiopiaWe finally got our travel dates! We will be meeting our baby boy on July 24th, and hopefully be home with him on July 31st.

    Please continue to pray for us. I’ll be posting more soon.

  • June15th

    Introducing . . .

    Author: Mary Beth | Posted in: Home Life & Family

    smallJacob (90)Probably not who you were expecting, but almost as good. Our precious little nephew, Jacob Allan, was born early this morning to Allan and Lindsay. He was 6lbs. 10oz. He has blue eyes and lots of blonde hair.We are so proud of him and so thankful to welcome this little one into our family. We are excited for Caleb and Josiah to have the blessing of growing up only a couple miles from their cousin and pray that they will have close relationships for the rest of their lives.

    See more pictures . . .